Extending grace to others

Showing grace to others is about showing kindness even when you may think that they don’t deserve it.  I admit, I’ve been struggling with extending grace to others and by others I mean several family members. I have to remember that giving grace to others involves stepping outside yourself long enough to forget the hurt or frustration that they have caused and focus on Jesus Christ.

The Bible actually has a lot to say about grace. We are told that grace is an unconditional love that you can show to others regardless of the way they treat you. Grace helps us to leave behind our old sinful nature and behaviors and instead take on the nature of Jesus.

Before we were even born, before we repented and came to accept Jesus Christ as our personal Lord and Savior, God extended His loving-kindness towards us in the person of His son Jesus Christ. God loved us so much that He sent His son into the world to die on the cross for our sins. 

This, to me, is the ultimate act of giving people grace.

When we intentionally remember how gracious God has been to us, it’s a lot easier to give grace to others. It’s so easy to get busy with our lives and forget God’s goodness toward us, but each day we should recall how God’s grace has been poured out toward us.

In fact, Ephesians 2:7-8 reminds us “that in the ages to come He might show the exceeding riches of His grace in His kindness toward us in Christ Jesus. For by grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves; it is the gift of God.”

Forgiveness is an amazing way to show grace to those who, we don’t believe deserve it. In the bible, Jesus tells us that in the same way we forgive others, our Heavenly Father will forgive us. Is it always easy? No.

Just as we don’t deserve God’s forgiveness, someone you know may not deserve yours. It doesn’t matter: We are still commanded to forgive them.

Forgiving someone who has wronged you takes a great deal of strength but it isn’t just for the other person’s benefit. It is for our benefit as well. Forgiving other people who wronged us or hurt us or embarrassed us is not easy, In fact, sometimes it seems impossible. But that is what God did for us and what He asks for us to do to others.

“For if you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you, but if you do not forgive others their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”

–Matthew 6:14-15

We can show grace by speaking kindly.

When someone does something to hurt us, our human nature almost always wants to bite back and put that person in their place. God tells us to do otherwise. He asks us to turn the other cheek and to uplift even when it hurts because, in the end, you might be the only bible that person will ever read.

I don’t know about you, but words laced with grace aren’t typically the first ones that come to mind when someone’s hurtful words have landed like daggers in my heart. But we are to strive to use our speech to encourage and uplift others. We can choose words that won’t leave the bitter taste of regret in our mouths. Words seasoned with the salt of wisdom and full of the grace of Jesus.

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.”

–Proverbs 15:1

Sometimes we just have to let it go. Whatever it is, big or small. Just let it go. God is bigger than any of our hurts. He loves you. And He loves the person who did you wrong. So it’s best to leave it all in His capable hands and go on with living life.

A fool shows his annoyance at once, but a prudent man overlooks an insult.”

-Proverbs 20:3

The next time we are tempted to selfishly demand grace for ourselves, or not extend grace to someone else, let’s take a moment to pause, and reflect on how truly undeserving we—and all humans—are of grace, but what a beautiful gift from God it truly is! I’ve been praying lately that God would show me ways to humbly extend grace, with His help, to others, especially those closest to me.

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