“God told me that you were to be my wife.” He said to her convincingly, so much so that in her new Christian heart, she believed him. Why wouldn’t she? He dedicated his whole life to scripture, when she had a question pertaining to her new Christian faith he had answers, he in a sense, took her under his wing and helped guide her in her new walk with Christ plus, the conversation that he had with God about their union was so incredibly believable.
My friend did have some reservations with his story but who was she to disagree or call God a liar? She didn’t want to laugh or scoff at such a detailed revelation. She had spent most of her adult life doing things God opposed of and she wasn’t about to continue. Plus, she trusted this man. But something deep down in her soul just didn’t feel right.
He claimed he no longer followed the signs and wonders, charismatic philosophy. He also held strongly to the notion that God would not give special revelation or prophecy to people, yet …………. God told him that this woman was to be his wife.
Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
and do not lean on your own understanding.
In all your ways acknowledge him,
and he will make straight your paths.Proverbs 3:5-6
God doesn’t tell us whom we should marry. He doesn’t give us advanced, supernatural revelations on who, in particular, that person will be. He won’t tell only one person who their spouse is while leaving the other person in the dark. Nothing in Scripture supports such maddening notions. Yet, He does provide us with supernatural guidance for choosing a suitable spouse, and that is available in His Word.
Outside of commanding our union with another member in the family of God, God doesn’t lay down any other requirements for whom we marry. Yet He does give us practical wisdom for identifying a godly option. For example, a wife from the Lord is a woman who is of “noble character” (Proverbs 12:4) and “prudent” or wise (Proverbs 14:1,19:14), and a husband from the Lord is a man who heeds the Lord’s wisdom and instruction (Proverbs 1, 2) and He seeks his “earthly pleasures” in his wife alone (Proverbs 5:18; Ecclesiastes 9:9). In the end, both the man and the woman professing Christ are bearing fruit in keeping with their professions of faith – this includes abstaining from sexual immorality, for example, Paul’s admonition that it is better to marry than burn with passion (1 Corinthians 7:9). If a Believer wants a supernatural word from the Lord for who they will or should marry, they only need to open His Word and heed His counsel. From there, a God-honoring option will be easy to discern.
If we’re waiting on the Lord to give us a name for that perfect person for us, we’ll be waiting forever or we’ll resort to conjuring up a false revelation of our own and find ourselves waiting on, chasing, or yoked to someone outside of the Lord’s standards.
To be clear, God can and does lead us to the person we eventually marry. This is evidenced in Genesis 24, when Abraham’s servant found in Rebekah the perfect wife for Isaac. But does God reveal to us in advance who that specific person will be? No!
Let God be true, and every man a liarRomans 3:4
As for my friend, she allowed God’s word to lead her to the truth. She trusted in the Lord to guide her through the lies, heartache, and confusion this man brought into their relationship. She also knew that when the time was right God would bring a man of His choosing into her life.
Which He did.